The psychologists and single women
single phenomenon of late (over 30) is a phenomenon often known today becomes the oppressive and frustrating. If up to 30 years we have been busy in our career and spend time with friends, prior to the beginning of the third decade of our lives, suddenly we find that almost all of our friends have already found their complementary half, some even set up a family. Of course not all unmarried after the age of 30 have to run to psychologists and look where the problem is, only those who feel they lack intimacy absence fills them in frustration and hurts their satisfaction of life.
when to turn to psychologists?
often immediate surroundings begins to apply pressure to raise questions like “Why are you not married ? When will my grandchildren “? And no, not that the mark to turn to psychologists. But your personal feeling. When loneliness begins to give the same influence on the self-confidence, self leads to questions of “what others do not have? What’s wrong with me? Why can not I find a mate?” Or, alternatively, when it singles out of date now and can develop, but unfortunately No luck in their relationship does not last more than a few weeks makes this conduct a predetermined script because it is unclear Single.
The problem worsens when the environment is trying to help but basically harmless bachelor style with accusations of “You’re too selective,” “When will you learn to compromise?” and “Your requirements are too high, never find anyone like this.” those messages simultaneously stressful feeling bachelor factors which compromise the appearance, and the mental connection.
Many times these failures following accusations the following relationships one by one, to develop a sense of singles despair and begin to believe that maybe for them it’s not really meant to be. It’s time to turn to psychologists.
what psychologists can contribute?
treatment for psychological help can primarily single that are desperate to try to understand his reasons for terrorist chances to develop as a transfer of the opposite message from what they would like to date from security, for example. Another reason could be a wrong interpretation of what was said by the other party due to a deficient model of parents. For example, a person who grew up in the family is very critical, may interpret and respond to every comment as a criticism aggressively.
’s important to remember that while psychologists do not guarantee finding a partner , but many times raising awareness about ourselves, our needs regarding our behavior may help us in building a healthy and stable relationship